Blog post 'What would you give up for everlasting love'
What would you give up for everlasting love
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Most people won't ever get it because they are thoroughly distracted with self-preservation. Most people have weak character because they are fear motivated. The one unique thing about the human species is that we have the ability to transcend self - and this must happen to achieve the miracle of everlasting love.
Love is an outward expression, not an inward one. LOVE IS NOT IN YOU. It can't be because love is a verb - it's something you DO. The closest synonym I can think of is "give" - which is also something you do. Giving love is a choice. It is a response that you choose. It's not a noun, it can be with-held but it can't be "contained" [in anyone].
Love is when you focus on fulfilling the other person and making them happy is enough for you not to have to be concerned about yourself or harbor any fear of personal loss.
If any of you for one minute think that "true love does not ask anything of you", then you are in fantasy land. LOVE NEVER STOPS ASKING OF YOU - which is actually a great thing, because when you are really in love, you would search out excuses to give to it.
So because love is the focus on the other person - it is the antithesis of self. You give your whole self to the other with no thought of anything in return and without hesitation. One of the reasons why this is difficult to understand is because we are examining one half of the equation. If you think for a minute about what would happen when two people give themselves completely to each other.
ok... did you think about that for a minute? You back now?
Yeah that's right, it's nothing short of a miracle. An atheist counselor said to me "you know marriage is a miracle, because at any given moment, one of the two can decide not to give themselves to it - and then it is broken. The miracle of marriage is that each partner CHOOSES each other day after day after day."
The giving is total (your whole self), it is unreserved, it is complete, and it is unqualified. It doesn't give with one hand and take with the other.
The person who gives in this way thrives on it. There is no way to measure the value of the love they give because the love contains all of them. and there is no way to measure their value because their worth is derived from what they give - which is all of themselves.
Again, take a moment, and think of this going both ways in a relationship. Now you may go cry yourself to sleep ;)
Love is an outward expression, not an inward one. LOVE IS NOT IN YOU. It can't be because love is a verb - it's something you DO. The closest synonym I can think of is "give" - which is also something you do. Giving love is a choice. It is a response that you choose. It's not a noun, it can be with-held but it can't be "contained" [in anyone].
Love is when you focus on fulfilling the other person and making them happy is enough for you not to have to be concerned about yourself or harbor any fear of personal loss.
If any of you for one minute think that "true love does not ask anything of you", then you are in fantasy land. LOVE NEVER STOPS ASKING OF YOU - which is actually a great thing, because when you are really in love, you would search out excuses to give to it.
So because love is the focus on the other person - it is the antithesis of self. You give your whole self to the other with no thought of anything in return and without hesitation. One of the reasons why this is difficult to understand is because we are examining one half of the equation. If you think for a minute about what would happen when two people give themselves completely to each other.
ok... did you think about that for a minute? You back now?
Yeah that's right, it's nothing short of a miracle. An atheist counselor said to me "you know marriage is a miracle, because at any given moment, one of the two can decide not to give themselves to it - and then it is broken. The miracle of marriage is that each partner CHOOSES each other day after day after day."
The giving is total (your whole self), it is unreserved, it is complete, and it is unqualified. It doesn't give with one hand and take with the other.
The person who gives in this way thrives on it. There is no way to measure the value of the love they give because the love contains all of them. and there is no way to measure their value because their worth is derived from what they give - which is all of themselves.
Again, take a moment, and think of this going both ways in a relationship. Now you may go cry yourself to sleep ;)
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